tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post5603268157808148610..comments2024-02-11T16:17:56.310-05:00Comments on Karma Calling: All Dolled UpSavanihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13781198953037866788noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-86763667915226817032009-01-05T06:40:00.000-05:002009-01-05T06:40:00.000-05:00well, its all so mad!! i mean who cares! they are ...well, its all so mad!! i mean who cares! they are just kids!<BR/><BR/>my logic is that both boys and girls should know how to care and nurture and how to protect themsleves! how can gender matter in this case?!<BR/><BR/>i remember i had a couple visit us whose son was almsot as old as Cubby. i was just showing my tongue to the baby or blowing rasberries just to get reaction. and the mom got all Mama - Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06330103540647472728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-28553007340351294402009-01-01T03:33:00.000-05:002009-01-01T03:33:00.000-05:00Hey Dottie, the boy plays with girl toys when he v...Hey Dottie, the boy plays with girl toys when he visits homes with girls. But when given a choice of toys, he has always without being guided or prodded in that direction chosen cars or action figures. You think the father hypnotised him when I wasnt looking?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02528271916192411200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-68142925185869096352008-12-24T12:42:00.000-05:002008-12-24T12:42:00.000-05:00Preethi: I remember.. so did I. My point is, let k...Preethi: I remember.. so did I. My point is, let kids play with a variety of toys. I'll buy my son a nerf gun AND a doll and let him pick.<BR/><BR/>Vinia: You wanna move here? :) No, but theya re good friends, really.<BR/><BR/>noon: I made a play kitchen for Chip too. he loved it and spent hours doling out idlis and mac and cheese. For Christmas, he gets a toy blender (and it cost me a pretty DotThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585795632537010150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-29075489806428164742008-12-24T01:19:00.000-05:002008-12-24T01:19:00.000-05:00it is the theropy you know!! the psycolagists give...it is the theropy you know!! the psycolagists give dolls to play, they observe the child, for emotions to come out.that is ok. but the boys should not play with dolls, rubbish. let him play eith the dolls and house houseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-44518274841570021782008-12-23T22:21:00.000-05:002008-12-23T22:21:00.000-05:00Nice post - made me think two thoughts.1. It is th...Nice post - made me think two thoughts.<BR/>1. It is the west where people object to gender stereotyping as adults and it is the same place where they make so much of mere toys for children and pinks and blues.<BR/>2. If indeed a child had gay tendencies and showed inclination towards feminine things a parent is in fact making it more difficult for the child by trying to take these away from him.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-2876762144406444712008-12-23T04:43:00.000-05:002008-12-23T04:43:00.000-05:00something for you at my blog, please come and pick...something for you at my blog, please come and pick itPGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509732589537039753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-2367929707106035952008-12-22T14:37:00.000-05:002008-12-22T14:37:00.000-05:00Looking at my own children, who play about equally...Looking at my own children, who play about equally with dolls and trucks (and pretend guns) I don't have reason to believe they're predisposed towards either.mummyjaanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11439816857061091370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-6456594596302356922008-12-22T03:57:00.000-05:002008-12-22T03:57:00.000-05:00Hi, been lurking for the longest while. Love your ...Hi, been lurking for the longest while. Love your writing. This post brought to mind a story I read somewhere: This American couple decided not to introduce gender-stereotype toys to their daughter, so they brought her trucks, cars et al. One day, the mom spotted the girl laying the trucks down on the bed and crooning a lullaby and covering them up with a sheet... how sweet is that? So much of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-44559851122873376972008-12-20T04:17:00.000-05:002008-12-20T04:17:00.000-05:00Interesting post Dottie! I went to the store today...Interesting post Dottie! I went to the store today looking for a small toy kitchen for KB. I bought him a fire truck and the smallest toy kitchen I could find (so it doesn't occupy too much space)...but at the check out counter changes my mind because KG is getting a toy fridge (since she loves opening and shutting doors and putting things into drawers) and I know KB will play with it a lot too.noonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05148779993978057896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-60518074778689009712008-12-20T01:51:00.000-05:002008-12-20T01:51:00.000-05:00Dotmom you need to change your friends..hee hee. S...Dotmom you need to change your friends..hee hee. So much discussion about a little innocent kid who is just entertaining himself through play? How can people be that judgemental and that early? <BR/><BR/>VinitaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-87696413751212585522008-12-19T17:08:00.000-05:002008-12-19T17:08:00.000-05:00I am not sure if you remember.. but I made a post...I am not sure if you remember.. but I made a post on this long back.. and so did you.. on pink ;D.. Whats with the over reaction? So he played with a doll.. my son plays with pots and pans.. we went to a friend's place and they have a 4 yr old girl.. I asked my son to go play with her kitchen set.. because he loves it.. and I have been meaning to buy him one but haven't gotten around to it! and Preethihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10943344283863649487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-44663339033612801742008-12-19T12:12:00.000-05:002008-12-19T12:12:00.000-05:00rayshma: your mil seems like an awesome mom!ro: RO...rayshma: your mil seems like an awesome mom!<BR/><BR/>ro: ROTFL. you give that sweet boy no credit.<BR/><BR/>Priya: thanks for your nephew's story :) I know the sociological theory that gender is a social construct, but I think its debatable. It does go beyond society. afterall women do give birth and haev a different set of hormones and ment can't. I am sure it affects us some what. But yes, we DotThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585795632537010150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-24811257791315184052008-12-19T12:07:00.000-05:002008-12-19T12:07:00.000-05:00munchkin: yup!nancy: hello, this said it all - His...munchkin: yup!<BR/><BR/>nancy: hello, this said it all - His father feeds / cuddles / bathes him and to me, he is the manliest and sexist man around.<BR/><BR/>~nm: actually, the men friends were more vocal than my women friends..<BR/><BR/>silentone: i'll say let her make the decsion.<BR/><BR/>PG: thanks PG, I always enjoy you scientific rationale :) The way I see it, we het hormonal sometimes DotThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585795632537010150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-31102207365190837852008-12-18T22:39:00.000-05:002008-12-18T22:39:00.000-05:00Well, it was an interesting conversation, I must s...Well, it was an interesting conversation, I must say...I'm sorry I kept lull during most of it...I don't know most of them very well (other than meeting at your place or at S and K's), and decided to amuse myself. <BR/>Besides, you did not need any help there :)<BR/>How could you forget to add your awesome question - "If your girl can play with trucks, why can't Chip play with dolls???"<BR/>That Yet Another Mother Runnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01590619021049889904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-38911261974003637902008-12-18T15:46:00.000-05:002008-12-18T15:46:00.000-05:00*breath in breath out* Trying to compose myself so...*breath in breath out* Trying to compose myself so that I dont sound like raving lunatic on your blog.<BR/><BR/>So I had the girls first, naturally, our house had alot of dolls, barbies, tea parties(especially tea party stuff) and less "boyish" toys.<BR/><BR/>When Child No 3 but 1st son was born, my dh went mad and bought Thomas the Train, remote control car but no gun(we dont allow them in our Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-58795360707305852232008-12-18T15:44:00.000-05:002008-12-18T15:44:00.000-05:00ah! a topic close to my heart. good for Chip and g...ah! a topic close to my heart. good for Chip and good for you!!<BR/>I think it was Artnavy who recently did a post on this - an action figure is also a doll, isn't it?<BR/>..<BR/>found the link: http://abouttimenow.blogspot.com/2008/10/another-doll-story.htmlAnushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887052887207435095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-7537379526495169472008-12-18T12:00:00.000-05:002008-12-18T12:00:00.000-05:00Hey Dottie,I'm so proud of you. Oh, by the way, as...Hey Dottie,<BR/>I'm so proud of you. Oh, by the way, as a bonafide student of sociology - I can tell you that gender *is* a social construct. But what you say is true also. Biological Sex *does* play a role in susceptibility to diseases etc. What the relation to behavior is however, is somewhat of a debate still. So you two were arguing at cross purposes - turns out you were both correct ! :) <BRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-47300546750253233172008-12-18T05:16:00.000-05:002008-12-18T05:16:00.000-05:00What wierd people! I would buy my brat my doll if ...What wierd people! I would buy my brat my doll if I wasn't fairly sure that it would soon meet a gory and early end...Rohinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234347487003665907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-10938617904261734172008-12-18T05:13:00.000-05:002008-12-18T05:13:00.000-05:00ok... now i don't have kids yet. so maybe i don't ...ok... now i don't have kids yet. so maybe i don't "know".<BR/>but honestly.. i don't think playing with dolls will make a boy gay. and yes i DO agree that his wife will thank u years later. vin, apparently would play with his sister's soft toys and sometimes dolls... and i still thank his mom for being open-minded about it in THAT day and age and letting him be. and trust me, he's far from gay. irayshmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09702175811120928581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-8458256729429525142008-12-18T04:47:00.000-05:002008-12-18T04:47:00.000-05:00I love your attitude. And these are some beautiful...I love your attitude. And these are some beautiful thoughts.<BR/>I think that every child has his/her nature, some like to play more with cars and some more with dolls. Both are Ok for me. My sunny boy loves to play with soft toys. No, I didn't buy him dolls. But, he loves to cook for them, bathe them, feed them, pacify them while playing. And I love this, when I see him doing it.<BR/>I also wishPGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03509732589537039753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-36698829761452192902008-12-18T03:50:00.000-05:002008-12-18T03:50:00.000-05:00Just wondering what you would say to a mum who ref...Just wondering what you would say to a mum who refuses to buy her daughter a doll because the mother doesnt like them ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-69411680649092897652008-12-18T02:08:00.000-05:002008-12-18T02:08:00.000-05:00I really really think that woman or women were ove...I really really think that woman or women were over reacting! Really really over reacting..big time!!<BR/><BR/>And they think playing with nerf guns and action figures and watching Ben 10 is good? What about making them terrorists? I would have said so to her when she offered to buy him a gun.<BR/><BR/>I have never stopped Anirudh in playing with dolls or watching barbie princess movies or in ~nmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483363042572158612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-19381220820056196432008-12-17T23:53:00.000-05:002008-12-17T23:53:00.000-05:00Hey Dotmom - have been visiting your blog often an...Hey Dotmom - have been visiting your blog often and was really touched by your post today. I've had exactly the same conversation (probably in similar parties with similar people) a few times.<BR/><BR/>My 3 year old son loves dolls and has taken to feeding / cuddling / bathing even Barneys and Pooh Bears ( I am sure he would have done the same to action figues had I given him some). Like you, I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6448652231201875288.post-87705652457637271052008-12-17T22:01:00.000-05:002008-12-17T22:01:00.000-05:00Let me guess..all the people in this party were In...Let me guess..all the people in this party were Indians?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01389268528170248043noreply@blogger.com